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What are the 4 Threats to your Marriage?

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We often see couples who are happily married on day one , start to struggle as they grow more complacent and accustomed to each other. There are different ways in which every couple deals with it and some even happen to make it work though years and decades. But for some couples, things get wrong and even though the superficial list of issues could be wrong and might change every week. However, its the underlying factors are the ones that need addressing and exploration.

With this aim in mind, we have curated 4 threats that can hamper a marriage:

Selfishness :
“Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live.” – Oscar Wilde
Marriage is about giving. Giving is what cultivates a good relationship. Having the ability to not only think about the wants and needs of someone else, but the capacity to see the world from their view is what draws people together.

Bitterness :
“Don’t let anger control you….Don’t let hate enslave you.
Don’t let negativity overcome you…..Don’t let bitterness conquer you.” 
Matshona Dhliwayo
A lasting relationship requires forgiveness and the lack of which brings anger and bitterness to a marriage. A better way will be to assume your spouse has the best intentions and perhaps they didn’t mean to hurt you. Maybe they are trying their best, but are struggling. Maybe you unintentionally hurt them and they are reacting out of their pain.

Pride :
“All men make mistakes, but a good man yields when he knows his course is wrong, and repairs the evil. The only crime is pride.”  – Sophocles
Marriage brings the realization and necessity to change and evolve as the relationship grows. In such a scenario, pride acts as a counterproductive elements causing us to be stubborn and unconnected to the people around us , especially our spouse. This further leads to blaming others , every time something goes awry.

“A man who goes into a restaurant and blatantly disrespects the servers shows a strong discontent with his own being. Deep down he knows that restaurant service is the closest thing he will ever experience to being served like a king.” – Criss Jami
There are times when we feel that we rather be doing something else at a totally different place. This could be our past life or something we wanted to follow before marriage. It can also be something that we always aspired to be. This leads to a feeling of rejection among marriages and especially to sensitive spouses who start questioning there worthiness. This can further escalate to broken marriages. Lets start treating our better halves as they are meant to to be.

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